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Toys are for wimps…

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My younger daughter Rosie is 15 months old. She’s an absolute joy – she potters about all day long, watching what’s happening, learning, climbing and getting into mischief.

She doesn’t do toys though. She just isn’t interested in them – she prefers almost everything else. So today, I had a bit of one to one time with her while Amelia was at swimming. I gave her a pan full of uncooked pasta twists, a pot, an empty gravy pot and a small jug. This entertained her for ages and ages. Moving the pasta from one pot to another shaking, pouring and exploring. She was very serious throughout – the concentration on her face was really interesting to watch -she really was absorbed in what she was doing.

I sometimes feel that Rosie doesn’t get quite as much of my undivided attention as her big sister did. I’m distracted more, and just don’t try to entertain her as much as I did Amelia. I’ve never really sat down, got all of her toys out and played – I used to do this with Amelia every day and i used to feel absolutely bored most of the time – it sounds horrible to say but it’s true. So I haven’t done it with Rosie – she plays with Amelia, she potters about, we play hide and seek, chase and tickling etc. She’s happy, she’s content and she’s very independent – she loves pottering about exploring, and almost pen ever cries. This tells me that my more relaxed, more ‘go with the flow’ approach works for her, and for us as a family.

Xxx

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I don’t feel the breastfeeding bond…

This is kind of my guilty secret I guess. My baby is now 8 months old, and is exclusively breastfeed. She has been since being born, and has never had formula milk.

However, I don’t breastfeed because I feel the magical bond I’ve heard so many others talk about. If anything, I don’t like it very much. She pulls and tugs, I don’t like to feed her when others are around, if leaving her I have to plan around her feeds and..well, I just am not that keen on breastfeeding.

I’ll continue to a year now. I did search about how to wean to formula when she reached 6 months but couldn’t find any information (maybe I searched the wrong thing.) if I’d really wanted to, I’d have stopped. But guilt made me continue feeding her. And I’m glad I still feed her, even though I don’t like it much. Because its best for her, because she’s happy and healthy and wonderful.

I wish I felt the special feeling that others describe. When I look at her feeding I don’t feel much at all if i’m honest – it’s a task rather than a pleasure. Maybe this is because I had the most awful beginning – I felt like crying at every feed, not wanting to continue but forcing myself through the pain. Then there was poor attachment (this may have been imagined, but it never felt ‘right.’) I don’t know really.

I love my baby with everything I am. I love both my girls so so much, they mean the world to me and make me so happy, so fulfilled and I’m proud to be their mum. But breastfeeding for me is not special, or wonderful, or any of those other things. It’s something I did because I wanted the best for my baby, and because I had a (completely irrational) fear that giving her formula would somehow give her life long health problems.

I look forward to the day when I don’t have to breastfeed anymore. When my body is back to normal. Is this selfish? Probably. Will my feeling change? I doubt it. I’ve been waiting for special feelings for 8 months now. If they haven’t happened so far, I don’t think they will.

Xxx

Weaning…

My baby, Rosie is 5 months and a week old, and so I’ve started getting ready to wean her. I didn’t realise how controversial weaning actually is – there seem to be three main sections when it comes to baby weaning:

1. Purees. This is the traditional method of purring vegetables and fruits, such as carrots, sweet potatoes, parsnips, pears, bananas etc, and spoon feeding a baby from 6 months, starting with lump free and gradually increasing the lumps and textures.
2. Baby led weaning. This is allowing a baby to self feed from 6 months, and is basically an ‘anything goes’ as long as there are no allergies etc, and with a few exceptions (whole grapes, olives and more) just. Giving a baby what you have, letting them play with it until they decide to eat it. I heard it described that baby led weaning is teaching a baby to chew first while pureeing is teaching them to swallow first.
3. Jars. Self explanatory really, using just jars of baby food.

I already know that I’m quite anti jars. If people do use them that’s their choice and everyone has their reasons, but personally for me, it’s cheaper, healthier and more interesting to prepare a baby’s food and so I’m not planning on giving Rosie jarred food.

Between the other two I’ve been debating which is best. I think I’ve settled on a combination of both – I used purees with my now 3 year old daughter and she now has a good appetite (even if she does have more of a sweet tooth than I would ideally like her to have!) but she loves fruit, will eat most veg and try new things. I can’t ask for much more, and I’m a firm believer that when babies are introduced to healthy foods when weaned this carries through to childhood and beyond.

With Rosie I think I’m going to use purees – I’ve started getting some ready, and have made carrots, sweet potatoes and parsnips so far – I’ve made them in ice cube trays and frozen them – enough to make loads of meals. I like purees because its cleaner, there’s little risk of choking, and I know the portion she’s getting is right (one ice cube serving is one portion, and I can just increase this as she gets older!) but I think that I like the idea of also giving her foods to control herself, especially fruit I think. So – I’m going to start with purees, and once I’ve introduced a few staples food and I feel confident, ill start to introduce ‘finger foods.’

I can’t wait to start!! I don’t know why, but with Rosie I feel so much more impatient to start feeding her, but am waiting until 6 months or until I am sure she is ready – I keep telling myself that jus because I want to wean her doesn’t mean that she wants to be weaned.

If anyone has any advice, suggestions or tips these would be gratefully received – I’m still just muddling through!!

Xxx

Thank you cards

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I made a few thank you cards..as my baby is only ten weeks from being due I thought I would start to get sorted so that I can give thank you cards for any gifts. I’ve made four, and will make a few more but a bit different another time (when I feel that I can stay awake after work!)

Everyone is commenting on bump now, it is well and truly obvious!

I enjoyed making these little cards, hope you like them too :)xxx